FEARLESS!… How wonderful it would be to go through life fearlessly! It comes from out of nowhere quietly creeping to the surface physically and mentally paralyzing you from any forward movement. I don’t know about you, but I want to banish fear from my life as much as possible! It totally blocks me in pursuing my dreams. It stops me from being all that I can be!
On several occasions I have read that fear is ego based. Not until I gave this statement a lot of thought while reflecting back through my own life did I come to believe the truth in this. The coaching process has taught me to face my fears. In the past, I used to look at failure as something to be embarrassed about. Something that could humiliate me or make me feel silly, stupid or inadequate. You know, like a loser! At times I would talk myself out of trying to take steps towards a goal or dream by justifying my lack of action with lame excuses. Now I realize, bottom-line, it was just avoidance of dealing with the possibility that the end result I was seeking might not turn out PERFECT… my “Fear of Failure”! I used to let all the little negative voices in my head talk me out of what it was that I really wanted to try. I avoided the possibility of hearing “I told you so” from the many different naysayers in my life. So, I kept myself safe. I know better now. I understand that the real basis for not taking the action in these cases was all about EGO.